MY PHILOSOPHY
The optimum growth of a human brain takes place during the childhood stage.
My Peerless Ethics and Principle
“It is biologically normal for babies to wake-up.”
“If you can’t handle being tired you shouldn’t have kids.”
“Sleep training is just child abuse, your baby needs you.”
Now who here has been told any of these three statements before? Here is the truth, yes wake-ups are normal but did you know there are two different types of wake-ups? Now when we think of a wake-up we see a fully alert child that is awake in their sleep space. There is also this other wake-up that is not a complete shift to full alertness, but rather an in between while they reposition and get back to sleep. They are both arousals but only one is actually a “wake-up” that is part of the sleep cycle. The other is a complete disruption of sleep and a state of complete alertness.
How many times will your child have these alert wakefulness? That answer is simply based on their own sleep architecture. It could be multiple times or maybe 1-2.
We want to promote these physiological sleep based arousals to help our child to be able to do a quick reposition and connect back into the next sleep stage. This is needed for a long restorative night’s sleep and also restful naps.
How does my baby learn to do this?
The quick answer is, when your child hits these in between stages and they wake-up, what do they know to do? Are they needing you to get them back to sleep or are they able to reassess, readjust and resume sleeping on their own? How many times do they find themselves needing your intervention to get back to sleep?
If we are finding these wake-ups happening every 3 hrs or less and they are not a newborn or have an underlying medical condition then most likely these arousals are being triggered by their environment and how they are finding their sleep.
Thanks to some research we know that there are two different kinds of sleep temperaments: we have the soothers and the signalers. The soothers are babies that can go without set schedules and can find their sleep with or without parent support. Signalers are the opposite. They will do best with a predictable schedule but they also build a dependency of parent support to the point that when they have those full wakefulness periods multiple times, if they did not begin the sleep cycle on their own, then they will wake-up and need parent help to find sleep again. Most times the same parent prop used to get them to sleep to begin. This is where we need to look at that prop and ask ourselves, “Is it helping or hindering?”
This expectation has been trained into them. It has become a learned behavior and they do not know anything else. The more we play on these habits, the more we reinforce them into our child. This patterned habit begins in the early weeks and if they are not introduced to getting to sleep differently, as they get older, come into big neurological and biological changes, then it could just get worse. This is where sleep “training” is needed but there are many gentle and slower approaches that we can do.
18hrs of sleep deprivation, is the same as a legal impairment alcohol level. The key source to regulation is sleep. My goal, my passion, my focus is to help not just sleep deprived parents sleep better but also their rapidly growing child. Lots of research supports the damage that sleep deprivation does on parents and on a growing child’s learning academic abilities. A healthy child needs a healthy brain and a healthy brain needs healthy amounts of sleep.
Let’s ignore the biased opinionated click bait views and reviews on sleep training and instead follow the research. Break down the process into weekly goals, first focusing on the foundation to help set up our child for that success before even connecting to independence. One thing that does stay true is that our child will cope better when needs are met. This is what we can help support, our childs true needs, over their wants.
I have helped hundreds of families around the world. No two children are the same and no two sleep plans are either. You truly get personalized and tailored care and approaches based upon your child and your household.
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My Objective
The renowned American Author ‘F. Scott Fitzgerald’ claims “The worst thing in the world is to try to sleep and not to.”
I fully believe that sleep can be a welcoming event, something that everyone can look forward to in the day and night. You can give your child the gift of being able to sleep independently without the need for them to cry for hours. You can still nurture, support and comfort your child while teaching them how to develop and strengthen their internal sleep tools instead of using those external props that contribute to your own sleep loss. It doesn’t need to be stressful or traumatic for the household.
I have solely devoted my educational knowledge and professional experience to help parents understand, become informed, educated and overall feel empowered in their parenting.
No one sleep program is right for every child and that is why I have experience in a variety of methods to help you find the one that works best for your family. I work one on one with you to help make this possible, in all age groups.
I will attune to your goals and aspirations you hope for and then create a personalised sleep plan for your little one. Sleep training is simply a method and there are many but achieving healthy sleep starts with figuring out what is hindering their own capabilities and building upon from that.
You can only give your child what they need based on your own needs being met. Parents do not need to sacrifice their own well being for their child’s. There needs to be balance and understanding on both sides for true harmony. I help show you how this can be possible for parenthood and in parenting.
